Category Archives: Automatic reactions

Relationship problems? Consider the long-term consequences of short-term decisions.

Probably the majority of people who come to me for professional help are motivated by a relationship in some stage of breaking down. I’ve heard more often than I can count about how wonderful things were in the beginning, but … Continue reading

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Part Two: Turning the Page on Sexual Misconduct: and Other Abuse

In my recent article “Turning the Page on Sexual Misconduct”, I only focused on a most egregious and abhorrent form such behavior takes – when someone with a great deal of public power and influence uses it to manipulate, control … Continue reading

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Commitment: The Gift That Keeps Giving!

As we move quickly toward the season of New Year’s resolutions, I’m moved to write about commitment. In my last very personal post, I shared my recent experience with open heart surgery as a metaphor for how, at certain points … Continue reading

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A New Beginning!

Saturday morning Ellie and I went for a long walk along the Hudson River. We used to enjoy these morning excursions as a regular part of our weekends. The operative phrase here is ‘used to’, which I’ll explain in a … Continue reading

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Mental Health Awareness Month: A Daily Reminder

May is “Mental Health Awareness Month.” I’m glad that mental health awareness has a month, but I believe that it’s critical to keep the awareness going year round. An article in the New York Times earlier this week reminded me … Continue reading

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